How to Be a Girlboss

How to Be a Girlboss | Advice on how to become a girlboss and the best version of yourself | Blonde Sartorial

Today I decided once and for all that I AM A MOTHERF*CKING GIRLBOSS! It’s a bold statement, I know, but here’s the thing. The original girlboss, founder and former CEO of Nasty Gal, Sophia Amoruso, coined the term as being “someone who’s in charge of her own life who gets what she wants because she works for it.” And, that’s exactly what I’m doing – actively doing what it takes to control my destiny and achieve my goals.

I won’t lie, I’ve had a rough 12 months. During summer 2018, I was sexually assaulted and had to interrupt my studies while I healed. I’ve experienced my first real heartbreak. And, I’ve been going through a phase where it seems like other people are constantly getting the recognition and opportunities I believe I deserve. Honestly, it sucks. But, instead of getting myself down and crawling into a hole to hide, I’ve been pushing to make new opportunities for myself.

Here’s a brief overview. I applied for – and was hired as – the online editor for the largest student newspaper in the country, giving myself a fighting chance at entering the world of fashion journalism. I set up Blonde Sartorial and am loving the direction it’s going in. And lastly, through a magical combination of never quitting and a stroke of luck, I scored a ticket to a show at London Fashion Week. (That last one I’m particularly excited about.)

So, I’m a girlboss. I’m taking control, playing to my strengths and living my life on my terms. And, here’s the best advice I can think of to help you project yourself into your best reality.

Make your own opportunities

Good things come to those who wait but only the things left from those who hustle. This time two years ago, I was overlooked for an editorial position at a publication I’d been faithful to for over three years. In a classic case of nepotism, the previous editor chose her friend instead. In retaliation, I set up a Manchester-based branch of a world-leading women’s media platform. This then led to my current position as an editor for a much more respected newspaper. Successful people take every opportunity they can get. But, if the opportunities you desire aren’t coming your way, make your own.

Get organised

With all the incredible opportunities you’re pursuing, being organised is key in order to make the most of your time. Get a planner, such as ‘Getting Stuff Done’ by Career Girl Daily. Start bullet journaling. Or, get to grips with Google Calendar. Beyond this, try getting physically organised, from clearing out your wardrobe to tidying your flat. If nothing else, getting organised feels damn good!

Get rid of toxic people

Want to improve your life? Getting rid of toxic people (i.e. anyone who makes you feel like shit) is an important step. Unless you’re contractually obliged to spend time with somebody, if they have a negative presence in your life, drop them! Whether it’s a friend that makes you feel guilty for pursuing your dreams or an influencer who makes you feel insecure about your body, you don’t need to be dragged down by their toxicity. Remove them from your life and move on to bigger and better things.

Take care of yourself

Physically. Mentally. Emotionally. Always make sure you look after #1 (that’s yourself). When I was sexually assaulted, I seeked out the help of a therapist to help me through my post-traumatic symptoms. I’m happy to say I’m mostly past this now. However, I’m still seeing my therapist on a semi-regular basis. I’ve found talking through my problems incredibly helpful and getting it all out in a one-hour session with a trained professional allows me to maintain balance during the other 167 hours of the week. Find what makes you feel great and never feel guilty about doing it.

Be confident (or fake it, at least)

Believe in yourself. If you don’t, nobody else will. However, being confident isn’t always easy. We live in a world with a gender pay gap and where the media constantly spews out an image of perfect that’s near-impossible to achieve. So, fake it. Stand tall, walk with confidence and roll with the punches, even when you’d rather crawl into bed and hide. Every girlboss does!

8 Comments

    • blondesartorial
      Author
      September 10, 2019 / 6:58 pm

      I think a lot of us put self-care on the back-burner, thinking there are more important things to be doing (I do anyway). But the changes to my wellbeing and productivity by giving myself just a little extra love have been incredible!

    • blondesartorial
      Author
      September 10, 2019 / 6:55 pm

      Thanks!

  1. September 7, 2019 / 11:38 am

    Wow so inspirational. It’s true, we’re our own bosses,
    thanks for the tips..

    • blondesartorial
      Author
      September 7, 2019 / 12:57 pm

      Thanks! There’s no reason whatsoever not to live our best damn lives!

  2. September 6, 2019 / 10:18 pm

    Wow, this is so motivational! I’m glad your girlboss energy is bringing you good things and the hustle is paying off. Being able to fake confidence until you find your own is one of the best things x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

    • blondesartorial
      Author
      September 7, 2019 / 11:18 am

      I know right? Fake it ’til you make it! Glad you like it!

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